You’re Not Crazy—You’re Dysregulated: Understanding Your Nervous System
There’s a moment I’ve had with every client (in Texas, and Albuquerque, New Mexico), where they’ve come to the end of their rope— overwhelmed, they look at me and say:
“There’s something wrong with me”
Signs to notice when experiencing nervous system dysregulation:
You feel anxious.
Dissociated.
Reactive.
Attached.
Let’s ground back down— you’re not crazy, your nervous system is in a state of dysregulation.
Your system is continuously scanning for safety; not just in the physical sense, but in the emotional sense as well.
When your nervous system senses threat (real or perceived), it shifts into survival mode:
Fight → irritability, anger, control
Flight → anxiety, overthinking, restlessness
Freeze → shutdown, numbness, disconnection
Fawn → people-pleasing, losing yourself
None of these responses mean you’re broken.
Your body is trying to protect you.
When you’re dysregulated, things can feel bigger than they logically are—
A delayed text feels like abandonment
Conflict feels like the relationship is ending
Distance feels unbearable
Silence feels loud
So you may:
Spiral
Overanalyze
Reach out, then regret it
Shut it down completely
And then—judge yourself for it.
Here’s the truth—
Your reaction makes sense when you understand your nervous system.
You’re not broken. You don’t need to fix yourself. You need support.
Most people try to think their way out of dysregulation. But dysregulation isn’t a thinking problem. It’s a body state.
You don’t heal it by forcing yourself to be different.
You heal it by helping your body feel safe again.
How to regulate your nervous system + help your body feel safe again:
Regulation looks like--
Noticing when you’re activated
(what’s happening in your body?)
Pausing instead of immediately reacting
(how can you ground and reframe?)
Feeling your emotions
(I’m linking the emotions wheel, find it here: )
Coming back to your grounded state more quickly
(try these: box breathing, somatic awareness scan, physiological sigh)
Safety looks like:
Slowing things down
I mean everything— driving, dishes, walking, work tasks, washing your face, brushing your teeth. SLOW IT DOWN.
Give your body evidence of safety
Sit in sunlight, drink something warm, be around comforting people, gentle movement, calm music.
Change your inner dialogue
“I’m allowed to feel this.”
“This makes sense.”
“I can handle this.”
If this resonated with you— you’re not dramatic, you’re not too much, you’re not broken. You’re a human with a nervous system that learned how to survive in a way that isn’t serving you anymore.
And now is the incredible work of coming home to yourself, of feeling safe again.
This is exactly the work I do—
Blending somatic therapy, nervous system support, and deeper emotional healing.
Reach out here.
